Re: [FamilyofGod] Who are you?

 

Okay - time to answer my OWN post.  Who am I?  

My life can be divided up into little sections --

1) Childhood

2) College (the good years)

3) College (The AWFUL years)

4) The most awful part of my life

5) The recovery period and awesome years  

I am from Mississippi.  I have a lived in multiple cities because my parents are United Methodist pastors.  That means we move around about as much as an army brat.  I love my parents dearly, and they are really two of my best friends.  I have one older brother who is 2 years older than me.  He is not married and has no children.  I now also have a sister-in-law (Ravi's sister) and a brother-in-law (Indra's husband Jeff) and a niece that is beautiful Avani.  Much of my high school career wasn't grand, but I had my family.  I only speak to one of my friends from high school who is still one of my best friends.  She was actually the maid of honor in my wedding.    

I am 27 years old.  I will be 28 in May of next year.  I got married this past May to Ravi whom I have been with since 2007.  The two of us met on eharmony.  We have no children -- unless you count furchildren.  We have a dog and a cat.   (Yes it really does work!)  I am a college graduate.  I have a Bachelor's of Science degree in Psychology with a minor in Mathematics.  I graduated Magna Cum Laude with special designation in the field of psychology.  Honestly, it is one of my proudest moments because of what I went through to GET to that degree.  The truth is this -- I am a twice college dropout.  I have an associates degree in Vocal Performance from a Junior college.  I had a great time at that college.  I loved being there.  I loved the teachers.  I loved my classes.  I love learning!  It was a great place.  Then...  I went on to a 4 year school and left a few months later after I literally had a nervous breakdown for lack of a better word.  A few months after that I went to another school and yet again -- dropped out after I downed a bunch of pills with a bottle of vodka.  I was hurting terribly from a bunch of stuff that was going on.  I was with a guy since I was 19 years old, and he hurt me terribly by breaking my heart time and time again.  But, that wasn't the worst of the problems.  I was living with 3 other people in an apartment.  As my depression got worse, the living conditions were getting worse as well.  I had friends that would come by to hang out with me, and they were the ONLY people keeping me from going insane.  A couple of those friends were guys.  They were friends -- that's it.  One of my roommates told an entire campus ministry that I was involved in that I was sleeping with all of them.  That wasn't true at all.  She claimed she had to move out because of my slutty ways.  I was hurt not so much because of the rumor -- but because the people at the ministry believed her without EVER talking to me.  It is still a sore spot with me.  I moved out and back home shortly after.  I was in a terrible place.  I really was.  I wanted to be numb -- I was in such pain that I cared only to feel NOTHING!  

To make matters worse (yeah they got worse)  -- I was abducted, beaten, drugged, raped in 2006 by 2 men and 1 woman (yes -- you did read that correctly) -- and she was more vicious than the men because she was the one into torture.  The pain that I went through there was unbelievable  The injuries that I had were the result of severe violence, but I survived it -- and I refuse to call myself a victim -- I am a survivor.

In December of 2006, I met Ravi on eharmony and after a great deal of prayer and talk between the two of us about some VERY serious subjects about relationships  -- I moved to Alabama to be closer to him.  Shortly after -- after some encouragement from Ravi -- I enrolled back in school.  If it wasn't for him, I would have never graduated and I wouldn't have done HALF of the stuff I did in school.  I owe him a great deal -- I really do.  We were engaged in June of 2007, and married May of 2010.  Ravi graduated college May of 2009 and I graduated December of 2009.  I got a job in January of this year at an organization that works with adults with developmental disabilities. I was a house manager in a group home.  I lived there for 2 weeks and at home for 1 week.  It made it hard for newlyweds -- that's for sure.  In July, Ravi interviewed in Mississippi for a band director position.  He got the job so we moved -- QUICKLY.  We are now pretty much settled and we are making it okay most of the time.  We are struggling a bit financially, but we will make it I think.  After all, I would know because I am the one that is the money manager in the family - not Ravi.  I have no job right now, but I am looking for one.  I really need a job.  

I am a United Methodist as well.  It isn't because my parents are of that denomination -- despite what some will think.  That is the church that I feel home in.  That is the place where I grow.  That is the place that resonates with my heart and soul.  I have visited other denominations and they just don't do anything for me.  Ravi and I attend church together and we have since we started dating seriously in 2007.  My faith is very important to me.  I tend to look at things through a very intellectual approach but it doesn't diminish my faith at all -- I think it enhances it to be honest.  

Any questions?  Ask away!! 

 

Amanda

There is an optimistic belief widespread among the generous-hearted that the average human being has only to become sufficiently acquainted with another's trouble or danger to transfer it to his own shoulders not merely unhesitatingly but gladly. --Margery Allingham

Bear one another's burdens. Galatians 6:2

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From: Amanda Webster-Sibal <oneoddduck3@yahoo.com>
To: FOG <familyofgod@yahoogroups.com>
Sent: Mon, November 29, 2010 3:31:54 PM
Subject: [FamilyofGod] Who are you?

 

We talk to one another on this computer on a regular basis.  We tell each other of things we go through -- sometimes.  We talk about our faith.  But really -- do we know one another?  Where did you come from?  What is YOUR story?  I want to know.  What is your faith story?  What is your life story?  Bluntly put -- who are you???  I want to have fun with this.  I will respond to my own question once someone gets the ball rolling. 
 

Amanda

There is an optimistic belief widespread among the generous-hearted that the average human being has only to become sufficiently acquainted with another's trouble or danger to transfer it to his own shoulders not merely unhesitatingly but gladly. --Margery Allingham

Bear one another's burdens. Galatians 6:2

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