Family of God: [Church_of_Christ] Re: I Introduce Myself

Dear Clay,

First of all I want to say thanks to your comments, so I got the chance to make something clear. You wrote:

<<Let me see if I understand you. You were previously a man. You had a surgical procedure that made you a Female?>

Absolutely correct! But I didn't do this cause I felt boring or want to make cross dressing, it was, cause after two suicide attempts and depression, I must do something. Praying, Bible reading, keeping God's commandments, all this wasn't helpful to me to hide my feeling being a woman caught in a male body. 

<<Why aren't you STILL a man if you desire women?>>

Only men can think so!
Withtrans-sexuality there is nothing about sexuality, but about IDENTITY! Probably feel as a woman or man. Transsexual people can be heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual, yes, even asexual. Lynn Conway, a computer specialist and also heterosexual married woman with transsexual past wrote in addition:

 In order to understand transsexualism, we must first answer some basic questions about gender. What is Gender Identity? Where does it come from? What events occur in nature that interfere with correct assignments of gender? These pages aim at answering these questions. Links are then provided to further information on gender identity, transgenderism, transsexualism and intersexuality, and to information about methods and technology for physical gender modification.  Knowledge in this area is under rapid development. There are challenges in defining, separating and "labeling" the different phenomena, and in making estimates of frequencies of occurrence. There are also differing interpretations of the underlying science, and differing points of view about the evolving social and medical protocols for resolving these conditions. 

However, much more is known about gender identity than just a few short years ago, and those new understandings are very much worth sharing and building upon. The taboo on this area has also been broken, so that we can openly discuss these important issues without fear, shame or embarrassment.

As we'll see, far more people suffer from gender-identity conditions than previously suspected, and the lives of millions of people are impacted by gender-identity issues. The key to improving the quality of those lives is better knowledge and more widespread understanding of that knowledge.

http://ai.eecs.umich.edu/people/conway/TS/TS.html

As Lesbian I learned that the traditional gender roles are bad for women and also for men. 

<<Why didn't you just stay a man?>>

Because I can't! I try it several times, got heart attack and high blood pressure,I was depressive and commit two suicide attempts. Prayer, bible lessons, advice from my LDS Bishop, nothing was useful/helpful. Because I was transsexual, I lost everything: Job, Family, Friends, Church, my wife.I never could see my children since 1992 unless I had "change" my surgery. My sister, she lives in Oklahoma, is a born again Christian. She offend me, cast me out of her thoughts and prayers. Also she want that I would "CHANGE". That I make my surgery forgettable. 

But I can't!

<<Sorry for sounding DUMB, but that would be a good way to describe My understanding of what you did, having surgery to become a woman.>>

As my Mom always said: There is no dumb questions or anwers, only question and answers from people without the knowledge they maybe use. 

<<I am terribly confused. Sounds like you are too?>>

I'm NOT confused any more.My surgery was 1994, and since that time I'm outside AND inside the person I always was. No suicide thoughts, no alcohol, no depression. My surgery gave me my life back.

Gerlinde

PS: Did you know that in many ancient cultures people like I are holy, for example the TWO-SPIRIT-PEOPLE (Indian tribes)

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