Re: [FamilyofGod] Prayer Request for us...
ShelleyGlitter
LOVE me or HATE me..Im STILL gonna shine!!
From: Deborah Truesdell <richdebtruesdell@
To: Prayer Request <Prayer@fba.org>
Sent: Tue, March 9, 2010 10:33:11 AM
Subject: [FamilyofGod] Prayer Request for us...
The Silent Treatment - A Form of Abuse - By Bill Siemon -
I believe the silent treatment (feigned apathy; cold-shoulder; silence; distance, and ignoring you) is the worst form of emotional abuse. It is a punishment used by abusers to make you feel unimportant, not valued, not cared about and completely absent from the abuser's thoughts. It is used as a form of non-physical punishment and control because the abuser mistakenly thinks that if they don't physically harm you then they are not abusers. The truth is, they are far worse at doling out abuse than the physical abuser.
Silent treatment is a form of banishing someone from the abuser's existence without the benefit of closure or a good bye or a chance at reconciliation. In a word..it's meant to torture someone you profess to love. The silent treatment is something that the abuser repeats over and over again. The silent treatment is CONTROL, and a safe means for them to avoid any 'uncomfortable' topics, issues in the relationship, or issues within himself (or herself).
Abuse is abuse. And abuse is never ok. In one way though, the silent treatment is far worse than other forms of abuse, because it indirectly says to you that you are not a person, you are an object, you are invisible because they choose to make you so because you are not worthy of their time. THAT is one of the most hurtful and abusive things to do. It is a horrible feeling, being ignored and denied affection.
What can you do about this kind of abuse? Really the only recourse is prayer. Pray for your abuser's. This type of abuse can occur within relationships, work environments and even religious organization' s and there is never an excuse for it. It is the opposite of love to act in such an unkind way.
Deborah
Oh Lord, hear my prayers and answer my cries for the marriage and salvation of my husband, Richard, our four children, our parents, our family, the Body of Christ, our friends, out leaders, our co-workers, and our enemies. AMEN!!!
"In the morning, O Lord, Thou wilt hear my voice; In the morning I will order my prayer to Thee and eagerly watch." Pslam 5:3
"Yet, with respect to the promise of God she did not waver in unbelief, but grew strong in faith, giving glory to God, and being fully assured that what He had promised, He was able also to perform. Therefore also IT WAS RECKONED TO HER AS RIGHTEOUSNESS. " Romans 4:20-22
"But this I call to mind, and therefore I have hope: The steadfast love of the Lord never ceases, his mercies never come to an end; they are new every morning; great is thy faithfulness. 'The Lord is my portion,' says my soul, 'therefore I will hope in him.' The Lord is good to those who wait for him, to the soul that seeks him. It is good that one should wait quietly for the salvation of the Lord." Lamentations 3:21-26
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